“Forgiving someone doesn’t mean condoning their behavior. It doesn’t mean forgetting how they hurt you or giving that person room to hurt you again. Forgiving someone means making peace with what happened. It means acknowledging your wound, giving yourself permission to feel the pain, and recognizing why that pain no longer serves you. It means letting go of the hurt and resentment so that you can heal and move on. Not because what happened didn’t matter, but because harboring that level of anger and bitterness takes up too much energy and causes too much pain. You don’t need any more pain. You need to heal. And in order to do that, you need to forgive. Not for them, but for you.”—Daniell Koepke (via anditslove)
“Good friends are really hard to find. They gotta be there for you even when you’re wrong. But at the same time, they can’t just tell what you wanna hear. They’ve also gotta be willing to tell you what you need to hear. That’s the real reason true love’s so hard to find. Because the basis of love is friendship. And friendship is really, really rare.”—Happy Endings (via indieanerin)
“Fashion is one of the very few forms of expression in which women have more freedom than men. And I don’t think it’s an accident that it’s typically seen as shallow, trivial, and vain. It is the height of irony that women are valued for our looks, encouraged to make ourselves beautiful and ornamental… and are then derided as shallow and vain for doing so. And it’s a subtle but definite form of sexism to take one of the few forms of expression where women have more freedom, and treat it as a form of expression that’s inherently superficial and trivial. Like it or not, fashion and style are primarily a women’s art form. And I think it gets treated as trivial because women get treated as trivial.”—Fashion is a Feminist Issue: Greta Christina (via wildthicket)
if you’re sad i suggest you allowing yourself to be that and when you’re ready to pick yourself up, that’s when you should. no matter how long it takes between the two, sad is not who you are it’s just how you’re feeling.